;) ???Tim, the answer to you problem is simply. God is love and he only wants love for you. If you feel like your one person with your lover it is love. If you feel like you are two people with your wife it is not being in-love. Being in-love is the union between two souls bonding. God bless and I hope you make the right decision. If you stay with your wife out of guilt your are committing a sin as well as adultery.